River North, Chicago · Valparaiso, Indiana
Questions to Consider
Do you feel diminished and unappreciated?
Are you arguing way too frequently?
Is your partner having an affair? Watching too much Porn?
Are you in a transitional stage in your life?
Would you like to strengthen your parental skills?
Is your partner or spouse compulsive or addicted?
(infidelity, affair, porn, strip club, escort, alcohol?)
Would you like to meet that ideal mate?
Are you stressed by financial burdens?
Is your partner traveling too much for work?
If your answer is yes to any of these questions, then please email firstname.lastname@example.org
I help women to gain confidence, set effective limits, gain clarity and to have their own back. I teach women to get out of the extremes and to stop settling for less simply because they’re too afraid to ask for more, don’t think they’ll get more, or are too tired to try for more.
CERTIFIED in PARTNER BETRAYAL TRAUMA - International Institute for Trauma and Addictions: I offer you support, healing from your betrayal trauma, as well as learn to set healthy boundaries for yourself.
What is Enmeshment and Are You Enmeshed?
When is Being Close to a Parent Too Much?
RECOMMENDATION: TO START - COMMIT TO 8 WEEKLY SESSIONS
Too many people go into dating for the wrong reasons which can set them up for years or even a lifetime of misery. Some common unhealthy reasons include:
- Trying to escape your current situation (looking for someone to rescue you).
- Trying to prove you're still attractive and "still got it".
- Trying to show your ex that you're still a catch and s/he is missing out.
- Trying to "fix" your depression, low-self-esteem or ____________________.
- Trying to fill a void you feel to your core.
If you're looking for someone else to fix your life, you're in trouble. Instead of looking to others to "complete you", give meaning to you or give you a sense of worth, look to yourself to own your worth (you have it--it's a given). Only when you're comfortable in your own skin, like who you are and don't "need" anyone to make you feel okay, will you be in a great place to find someone good for you. The healthier you are, the healthier the people will be who you attract.
Challenge: Be certain you're going into the dating world with nothing to prove and no desperation to find someone.
Strengthen your inner core first (Inherent Worth) and you will raise the bar on the quality of dates you attract later.
Hedy Tan has been in private practice for 30+ years. Hedy uses RLT with her individuals and couples for relational healing. She has completed all levels of Pia Mellody’s training, including PIT. Hedy is certified with IITAP in Partner Betrayed Trauma; Sex and Love Addiction as well as Money and Work Disorders; CADC (Illinois), Certified Life Coach (ICF) and completed training with Ken Adams via IITAP to assist Adults enmeshed with a Parent.