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Relational Life Therapy (RLT) with Hedy Tan

What Is Relational Life Therapy?

(RLT) is a transformative approach that emphasizes the importance of connection. Our earliest relationships with caregivers shape how we attach, communicate, and love. Over time, these patterns can either help us thrive or keep us stuck in cycles of conflict, disconnection, or silence.

Unlike traditional talk sessions or standard marriage counseling, RLT doesn’t just focus on surface-level issues. It goes deeper—into the core of your relational struggles—so couples and individuals can uncover unconscious patterns, heal wounds, and create healthier, more authentic ways of relating.

Why RLT Works

  • Relational Discovery: Instead of staying stuck in blame or old stories, RLT helps you discover the unconscious dynamics that fuel disconnection.
  • Practical Tools: You’ll learn relational skills you can immediately apply in everyday life.
  • Lasting Change: By addressing core patterns, couples can move from feeling hopeless to building a relationship rooted in respect, intimacy, and honesty.
About Hedy Tan

Hedy Tan is passionate about helping people break free from painful cycles and create the relationships they truly want. Her expertise brings both compassion and structure to the healing process.

  • Enmeshment Preferred Provider – trained by Ken Adams (IITAP) to help clients navigate enmeshment and reclaim healthy boundaries.
  • Certified Life Coach (ICF) – supporting clients in achieving clarity, growth, and self-empowerment.
  • Certified Alcohol and Drug Counselor (CADC) – through IODAPCA in the State of Illinois, offering specialized support for individuals and couples impacted by addiction.
  • Specializations:
    • Couples therapy through Relational Life Therapy
    • Individuals and couples recovering from betrayal trauma
    • Support for those affected by addictions
Locations
Hedy offers sessions in two welcoming office settings:

  • Chicago, Illinois (60610)
  • Valparaiso, Indiana (46385)
Remote/virtual sessions / Coaching may also be available upon request.

Who Can Benefit from RLT?

  • Couples caught in repetitive arguments or silence
  • Partners struggling with trust or betrayal trauma
  • Individuals navigating enmeshment or codependency
  • Anyone ready to grow beyond past wounds and build deeper connections
Take the Next Step Now

If you’re ready to stop repeating the same patterns and start building a healthier, more connected relationship, Relational Life Therapy may be right for you.

Contact Hedy Tan today to schedule a consultation and begin your journey toward lasting change.
About Hedy Tan:
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With over 35 years of experience, Hedy Tan has dedicated her career to helping individuals and couples heal from trauma, addictions, and relational challenges. She combines compassion with evidence-based methods to guide clients toward lasting change.

Credentials & Expertise

  • Enmeshment Preferred Provider – trained by Ken Adams (IITAP) to help clients reclaim healthy boundaries.
  • Certified Life Coach (ICF) – supporting clients in achieving clarity, growth, and self-empowerment.
  • Certified Alcohol and Drug (CADC) – through IODAPCA in Illinois, offering specialized support for addiction recovery.
  • Extensive Trauma Training – completed Pia Mellody’s Post Induction Training (PIT) three times over 15 years, and continues case consultations with her.
  • Addiction – certified in Sex Addiction (ASAT) by Patrick Carnes, PhD; certified Multiple Addiction Therapist (AMAT); Certified Partner Trauma APTT;  currently pursuing Couples Betrayal Recovery certification with IITAP.
  • RLT (Relational Life Institute) – trained over 20 years with Terry Real, and serves as an RLI Facilitator, Bootcamp Leader, and RLT Certified for Couples.
River North, Chicago
Valparaiso, Indiana
For 30 years Hedy Tan has empowered individuals and couples who are ready and motivated, to reach their fullest potential beginning with the Self - recognizing and overcoming the barriers that hold you back.  

When you are truly ready, you can move on to achieve your biggest dreams and goals...in your ​Self, Career, Couple ship, Parenting, Dating, Meeting that ideal mate, and much more.

  • Marriage
  • Couples
  • Relationships
  • Emotional / Physical Affairs / Infidelity
  • Dating
  • ​Separation
  • Communication breakdown
  • Relationship Dependency
  • Women's Empowerment
  • Addiction Recovery / Sobriety
  • Substance Abuse
  • Codependency
  • Anger / Rage Management
  • Twelve Step Support
  • Porn
  • Work compulsivity /addiction​
  • Spending / Debting
  • Gambling
  • Partner / Spouse of SA
  • Love addiction / Love avoidance
  • Childhood healing
  • Parenting
  • Financial Disorder
  • Boundaries
  • Retirement
  • Baby Boomer
  • Job Search
  • Transition
  • Grief / Loss​​
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