Chicago River North - Oak Park
Valparaiso, Indiana
In case of an emergency, please call 911
Chicago River North - Oak Park
Valparaiso, Indiana
In case of an emergency, please call 911
RELATIONSHIP INTERVENTION
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Questions to Consider:
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Relational Life Solutions has found that the traditional 50-minute hour session is ineffective and makes progress slow going.
Therefore, the first session with every couple in the office is a two-hour session, followed by two-hour sessions every week or every two weeks, for 8 sessions.
Longer sessions are vital in allowing the work to go deeper and progress to move faster.
Couples love the depth of the work inherent in the longer sessions.
After the initial eight sessions, we re-evaluate where you are and move forward every two weeks for a total six month commitment.
Therefore, the first session with every couple in the office is a two-hour session, followed by two-hour sessions every week or every two weeks, for 8 sessions.
Longer sessions are vital in allowing the work to go deeper and progress to move faster.
Couples love the depth of the work inherent in the longer sessions.
After the initial eight sessions, we re-evaluate where you are and move forward every two weeks for a total six month commitment.
COUPLES
You deserve to feel accepted, understood, and cherished in your relationship. Whether you are on the brink of divorce, dealing with an affair situation, or just overwhelmed in your life, there is hope. There is a clear path for you to vastly improve your situation.
Note: I am not someone who will just sit back and listen to you. I am very interactive, directive and involved in the sessions. I will work with you to evaluate exactly what is keeping you stuck and outline steps for each of you to take in order to change. What I tell you might be difficult to hear at times, but it is necessary for you to make lasting change in your life if you wish to make your relationship more cohesive, joyful, connective. The results you experience are totally dependent on your commitment to yourself and your relationship, to do whatever it takes to make it better.....Some people have been through 3, 4 or even 5 other therapists before they come to me.
THE COUPLE'S EXPERIENCE
Starting out, I highly recommend that you begin with an intensive session of one/half or one full day. In my experience I have seen couples make a lot more progress with longer sessions.
After your Intensive, It is much easier to make progress and still be able to space out the appointments every 2 weeks when we are meeting for 100 minutes or more.
There is certainly no guarantee as every situation is different, but I can usually help couples make a lot of progress in 8 longer sessions. Once couples are on the right track they often choose to continue meeting, but can space out the sessions even more.
Working with couples for longer sessions has been incredibly helpful. Most professionals try to work with couples in the usual 50 minute sessions every week. I have had extensive training and experience in RLT couples relational skills and know that working with couples is much different than working with individuals. For that reason I work in 100 minute sessions at a minimum.
Hedy Tan has been in private practice for 30+ years. Hedy uses RLT with her individuals and couples for relational healing. She has completed all levels of Pia Mellody’s training, including PIT. Hedy is certified with IITAP in Partner Betrayed Trauma; Sex and Love Addiction as well as Money and Work Adaptation; CADC (Illinois), Certified Life Coach (ICF) and completed training with Ken Adams via IITAP in Adult Enmeshed with Parent.
ZOOM GUIDELINES:
PLEASE DO NOT USE EAR PODS DURING OUR ZOOM SESSIONS - it muffles the sound clarity…..
PLEASE HAVE A NOTEPAD AND YOUR FOLDER CONTAINING YOUR HANDOUTS AVAILABLE FOR OUR SESSION……..
YOUR TIME HAS BEEN RESERVED FOR YOU. PLEASE SETTLE YOUR ACCOUNT 48 HOURS PRIOR TO YOUR APPOINTMENT.
1 session = 50 minutes
2 sessions = 100 minutes
ZELLE: hedytan@aol.com
312-296-6300
VENMO:
@Hedy-Tan
312 296 6300
INFORMED CONSENT GUIDELINES / CHECKLIST FOR VIRTUAL SERVICES AGREEMENT
·There are potential benefits and risks of video-conferencing (e.g.
Technology can’t guarantee patient confidentiality) that differ from in-person sessions.
Confidentiality still applies for virtual services, and nobody
will record the session without the permission from the others person(s).
·We agree to use the video platform selected for our
virtual sessions.
·You need to use a webcam or smartphone during the session.
·It is important to be in a quiet, private space that is free of
distractions (including cell phone or other devices) during the session.
·It is important to use a secure internet connection rather than
public/free Wi-Fi.
·It is important to be on time. If you need to cancel or change your
tele-appointment, you must notify in advance with 48 hour notice by phone or email.
·We need a back-up plan (e.g., phone number where you can be reached) to
restart the session or use Face Time, in the event of technical
problems.
·We need a safety plan that includes you have at least one emergency contact and
the closest ER to your location, in the event of a crisis situation.
I may determine that due to certain
circumstances, the virtual platform is no longer appropriate and that we
should resume our sessions in-person.
RLT TOOL PACKET = $95 + shipping
You deserve to feel accepted, understood, and cherished in your relationship. Whether you are on the brink of divorce, dealing with an affair situation, or just overwhelmed in your life, there is hope. There is a clear path for you to vastly improve your situation.
Note: I am not someone who will just sit back and listen to you. I am very interactive, directive and involved in the sessions. I will work with you to evaluate exactly what is keeping you stuck and outline steps for each of you to take in order to change. What I tell you might be difficult to hear at times, but it is necessary for you to make lasting change in your life if you wish to make your relationship more cohesive, joyful, connective. The results you experience are totally dependent on your commitment to yourself and your relationship, to do whatever it takes to make it better.....Some people have been through 3, 4 or even 5 other therapists before they come to me.
THE COUPLE'S EXPERIENCE
Starting out, I highly recommend that you begin with an intensive session of one/half or one full day. In my experience I have seen couples make a lot more progress with longer sessions.
After your Intensive, It is much easier to make progress and still be able to space out the appointments every 2 weeks when we are meeting for 100 minutes or more.
There is certainly no guarantee as every situation is different, but I can usually help couples make a lot of progress in 8 longer sessions. Once couples are on the right track they often choose to continue meeting, but can space out the sessions even more.
Working with couples for longer sessions has been incredibly helpful. Most professionals try to work with couples in the usual 50 minute sessions every week. I have had extensive training and experience in RLT couples relational skills and know that working with couples is much different than working with individuals. For that reason I work in 100 minute sessions at a minimum.
Hedy Tan has been in private practice for 30+ years. Hedy uses RLT with her individuals and couples for relational healing. She has completed all levels of Pia Mellody’s training, including PIT. Hedy is certified with IITAP in Partner Betrayed Trauma; Sex and Love Addiction as well as Money and Work Adaptation; CADC (Illinois), Certified Life Coach (ICF) and completed training with Ken Adams via IITAP in Adult Enmeshed with Parent.
ZOOM GUIDELINES:
PLEASE DO NOT USE EAR PODS DURING OUR ZOOM SESSIONS - it muffles the sound clarity…..
PLEASE HAVE A NOTEPAD AND YOUR FOLDER CONTAINING YOUR HANDOUTS AVAILABLE FOR OUR SESSION……..
YOUR TIME HAS BEEN RESERVED FOR YOU. PLEASE SETTLE YOUR ACCOUNT 48 HOURS PRIOR TO YOUR APPOINTMENT.
1 session = 50 minutes
2 sessions = 100 minutes
ZELLE: hedytan@aol.com
312-296-6300
VENMO:
@Hedy-Tan
312 296 6300
INFORMED CONSENT GUIDELINES / CHECKLIST FOR VIRTUAL SERVICES AGREEMENT
·There are potential benefits and risks of video-conferencing (e.g.
Technology can’t guarantee patient confidentiality) that differ from in-person sessions.
Confidentiality still applies for virtual services, and nobody
will record the session without the permission from the others person(s).
·We agree to use the video platform selected for our
virtual sessions.
·You need to use a webcam or smartphone during the session.
·It is important to be in a quiet, private space that is free of
distractions (including cell phone or other devices) during the session.
·It is important to use a secure internet connection rather than
public/free Wi-Fi.
·It is important to be on time. If you need to cancel or change your
tele-appointment, you must notify in advance with 48 hour notice by phone or email.
·We need a back-up plan (e.g., phone number where you can be reached) to
restart the session or use Face Time, in the event of technical
problems.
·We need a safety plan that includes you have at least one emergency contact and
the closest ER to your location, in the event of a crisis situation.
I may determine that due to certain
circumstances, the virtual platform is no longer appropriate and that we
should resume our sessions in-person.
RLT TOOL PACKET = $95 + shipping
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ENMESHMENT
What is Enmeshment and Are You Enmeshed?
When is Being Close to a Parent Too Much?
RELATIONAL LIFE THERAPY ESSENTIAL SKILLS ONLINE BOOTCAMP
FOR INDIVIDUALS AND COUPLES
OCTOBER 15, 16 2021 9 AM - 4 PM CST
What is Enmeshment and Are You Enmeshed?
When is Being Close to a Parent Too Much?
- When the relationship primarily serves the emotional needs of the parent not the child
- When the child’s closeness to one parent is used in a tug‐of‐war with the other parent
- When the implicit and explicit demands for obligatory loyalty to the parent interfere with the child’s identity unfolding and adult emancipation
- When the parent’s needs and demands interfere with the romantic relationship of the adult child leaving the partner essentially “second fiddle”
- IF you think you or your partner may be too close to a Parent, email me now to schedule an appointment
RELATIONAL LIFE THERAPY ESSENTIAL SKILLS ONLINE BOOTCAMP
FOR INDIVIDUALS AND COUPLES
OCTOBER 15, 16 2021 9 AM - 4 PM CST
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