River North, Chicago · Valparaiso, Indiana
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Hedy Tan · CADC, CLC, PIT, ASAT, AMAT, APTT; RLT Facilitator, RLT Bootcamp Leader, RLT Certified Couples Therapist; Facilitator, Enmeshment Preferred Provider with Ken Adams (IITAP), and CCBRT Candidate - IITAP Location: Chicago, Illinois and Valparaiso, Indiana Hedy has worked 35+ years with individuals and couples, helping them overcome barriers to achieving the life they want to live. Individual work focuses on helping clients see how their choices impacts them as well as those around them. It may mean understanding how to best manage controlling / codependent / avoidant behaviors, compulsion / addiction; over dependence on substances or processes, depression, professional life, resentment, anxiety, career direction, retirement, anger management issues, and much more. This may mean developing compassion and understanding for parts of one's personality and beliefs, that have been extreme or problematic for oneself as well as others. |
ENMESHMENT What is Enmeshment and Are You Enmeshed? When is Being Close to a Parent Too Much?
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5 Core Self Skills: Self-esteem, Owning your reality, Boundaries, Interdependency, & Moderation
LOVE ADDICTION
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Whether this is something you have tried before or something you have been thinking about trying for the first time, you know you want to improve certain parts of yourself and your life.
You have been successful in certain aspects of your life, but just feel like you want to feel better or more satisfied with other parts. It might be stress at work, your relationships, or feeling unmotivated and unsatisfied, but you know you could be more fulfilled and happy. You might be searching for support through something that is going on now or something that happened in the past. I can help you explore how your emotions affect you in ways that have been difficult for you to identify. I want to help you live a more engaged life. A life you feel excited about. Individual recovery is an investment in yourself. You have the potential to make a lot of progress. |
The Way In
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When you first begin, you have the opportunity to openly talk about your thoughts. concerns and feelings while being guided by a caring life /relationship / addictions professional / coach.
Clients often seek outside, professional help when their internal struggles begin to affect their daily lives. It may be some recent stress, an ongoing conflict, a sense of hopelessness or feeling overwhelmed, or other life struggle they have been unable to resolve alone. You might worry initially that talking about yourself might be awkward or uncomfortable, but most clients find individual work an enjoyable release of their pent up / confused / anxious feelings and a path to personal growth. I will assist you in defining your goals and develop a plan to help attain them. So, while you gain greater focus and peace within your thoughts and feelings, the life and relationship coach acts as a non-judgmental guide, helping you recognize patterns in your behavior and choices, identifying alternatives and finding ways to avoid repeating past problems. I use a dynamic approach based on the integration of Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy Model, THE MEADOWS' - Pia Mellody’s Post Induction Model's Five Core Issues around Development Immaturity, and IITAP's Patrick Carnes' Addiction Model. |
Love Addiction
I help women to gain confidence, set effective limits, gain clarity and to have their own back. I teach women to get out of the extremes and to stop settling for less simply because they’re too afraid to ask for more, don’t think they’ll get more, or are too tired to try for more.
CERTIFIED in PARTNER BETRAYAL TRAUMA International Institute for Trauma & Addictions: I offer you support, healing from your betrayal trauma, as well as learn to set healthy boundaries for yourself. DATING HELP Too many people go into dating for the wrong reasons which can set them up for years or even a lifetime of misery. Some common unhealthy reasons include:
Challenge: Be certain you're going into the dating world with nothing to prove and no desperation to find someone. Strengthen your inner core first (Inherent Worth) and you will raise the bar on the quality of dates you attract later. |
If you're looking for someone else to fix your life, you're in trouble. Instead of looking to others to "complete you", give meaning to you or give you a sense of worth, look to yourself to own your worth (you have it--it's a given). Only when you're comfortable in your own skin, like who you are and don't "need" anyone to make you feel okay, will you be in a great place to find someone good for you. The healthier you are, the healthier the people will be who you attract.
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Hedy Tan has been in private practice for 30+ years. Hedy uses RLT with her individuals and couples for relational healing. She has completed all levels of Pia Mellody’s training, including PIT. Hedy is certified with IITAP in Partner Betrayed Trauma; Sex and Love Addiction as well as Money and Work Disorders; CADC (Illinois), Certified Life Coach (ICF) and completed training with Ken Adams via IITAP to assist Adults enmeshed with a Parent.