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River North, Chicago and Valparaiso, Indiana
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You deserve a life that feels good—inside and out. Right now, you might feel stressed, unmotivated, or disconnected. You’ve handled challenges before, but this time you want something more than just “getting through.” You want real change.
Whether it’s pressure at work, struggles in your relationships, or a lingering dissatisfaction you can’t quite name, you don’t have to navigate it alone. I help people uncover what’s been holding them back and build a life they’re genuinely excited to wake up to.
This is your turning point. In our work together, you’ll gain clarity about how your emotions influence your choices, discover new ways to respond to challenges, and begin to create lasting shifts in how you feel, think, and live.
RLT is psycho- educational
How We Begin
Your First Session (50 minutes): We’ll define your goals and create a plan just for you. Weekly Momentum: Meeting weekly—or twice a week—helps build strong results. Progress Review: After 8 sessions, we’ll celebrate your wins and adjust your path for continued growth.
Your future self will thank you for starting today. If you’re ready to feel more grounded, more confident, and more alive, let’s get started.
Book Your First Session!
Whether you’ve been working on yourself for a while or you’re just starting to explore the idea, you know there are parts of your life you’d like to feel better about.
You’ve achieved success in some areas, but you might still feel stressed, unmotivated, or unsatisfied in others. Maybe it’s work pressure, relationship struggles, or a lingering sense that life could feel more fulfilling. You might be seeking support for something happening right now, or for experiences from your past that still affect you today.
That’s where I can help. Together, we’ll explore how your emotions shape your experiences—often in ways you haven’t yet noticed. My goal is to help you live a more engaged, energized life… one you feel genuinely excited about.
Investing in yourself is powerful. Individual recovery is a commitment that can lead to profound progress and change.
The Way In: Starting Your Journey
If you’re ready to begin your healing journey, here’s what to expect:
First Session (50 minutes): We’ll talk about your goals and begin creating a tailored plan for your personal growth. Frequency: Many people find it most helpful to meet weekly—or even twice a week—at the beginning. Progress Check: After about 8 sessions, we’ll review your progress and adjust our approach to best support your needs.
If you’re ready to take this step toward a fuller, more satisfying life, let’s connect and get started.
RLS Maintains a no recording policy
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Hedy Tan is a highly qualified mental health professional and the only RLI Facilitator in the Chicagoland area. She serves as an RLI Bootcamp Leader and is a certified Couples Therapist through the Relational Life Institute under Terry Real. Hedy specializes in post-induction therapy (PIT) for childhood trauma, trained by Pia Mellody at The Meadows.
In addition to her trauma expertise, Hedy is certified in treating sex and love addiction, partner betrayal trauma, and multiple addictions through the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP), founded by Patrick Carnes. She also holds Illinois certification in drug and alcohol counseling and is an ICF-Certified Life Coach. Hedy is an IMAGO practitioner (trained by Harville Hendrix) and works throughout the Chicagoland area. Hedy is PIT trained and uses Pia Melody’s model of developmental immaturity in all areas of her work with individuals as well as couples Credentials: CADC, CLC, PIT, ASAT, AMAT, APTT, CCRBT (in training) Locations: Chicago, Illinois • Valparaiso, Indiana 
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What Is Enmeshment (Intrusion)?
Enmeshment—sometimes called intrusion—is a relational pattern in which boundaries between a parent and child become blurred. The parent’s emotional needs take center stage, and the child learns to organize their feelings and behavior around caretaking the parent. Over time, this can stunt identity development and make healthy adult intimacy difficult. Signs of Enmeshment
How Therapy Helps
If this resonates, you’re not “too sensitive”—you may be enmeshed. Reach out to start untangling old patterns and creating healthier, more satisfying relationships. |
based on the treatmemt model developed by
Pia Mellody "Survivors One”
Hedy Tan — RLT Facilitator, Couples Therapist, Trauma Specialist
With over 35 years of experience, Hedy Tan is a dedicated mental health professional specializing in both individual and couples therapy. She is a certified Relational Life Therapy (RLT) Facilitator, Bootcamp Leader, and Couples Therapist, trained under Terry Real, giving her a deep understanding of the complex patterns that can block personal and relational growth.
Individual Therapy Focus
Hedy’s work helps clients recognize how their choices impact both themselves and the people in their lives. She addresses a wide range of challenges, including:
Relational patterns such as controlling, codependent, and avoidant behaviors Compulsions and addictions, including substance dependence Depression and anxiety Career direction and professional life transitions Retirement planning Anger management
Therapeutic Approach
Hedy emphasizes developing compassion and understanding for the parts of oneself—personality traits, coping strategies, and beliefs—that may be problematic. By guiding clients to explore and reframe these areas, she supports the creation of healthier patterns and a more fulfilling life.
Specialized Credentials
Enmeshment Preferred Provider with Dr. Ken Adams Certified Clinical Betrayal Trauma (CCBRT) Candidate with the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP) Extensive training in childhood trauma, addiction recovery, and relational repair, PIT trained.
Hedy’s combination of expertise, warmth, and clear guidance empowers her clients to heal, grow, and build the relationships—and the life—they aspire to.
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Starting Your Journey:
What to expect when you begin - you'll have the chance to openly discuss your thoughts, concerns, and feelings with a caring professional. Many clients seek help when their internal struggles start impacting their daily lives—whether due to recent stress, ongoing conflicts, feelings of hopelessness, or other unresolved issues. It's natural to feel apprehensive about sharing your experiences, but most clients find individual sessions to be a valuable release, allowing them to navigate their emotions and foster personal growth. Your Path Forward - I will work with you to:
Approach - My approach integrates several proven models:
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Love AddictionLove Addiction & Relationship Empowerment
Empowering Women: Confidence and Clarity I help women build confidence, set effective limits, and cultivate clarity in every area of their lives. My mission is to guide you out of extremes and empower you to stop settling for less. Too often, fear, self-doubt, or exhaustion keeps women from asking for what they truly deserve. When you learn to have your own back, you create space for healthy relationships—starting with the one you have with yourself. Partner Betrayal Trauma Support As a Certified Partner Betrayal Trauma Professional through the International Institute for Trauma & Addictions, I provide compassionate, evidence-based support for those experiencing the deep wounds of betrayal. Together, we will:
Dating Help: Finding the Right Reasons Many people enter the dating world for unhealthy reasons, which can lead to prolonged unhappiness and repeated relationship disappointments. Common motivations that signal a need for deeper work first include:
Your challenge: Before diving into dating, make sure you’re not going in with something to prove and you’re not driven by desperation. Strengthen your inner core—your sense of inherent worth—and you will naturally raise the quality of the relationships you attract. If you’re ready to embark on this transformative journey, I’m here to support you every step of the way—helping you stand in your worth, set boundaries with confidence, and choose relationships that truly reflect your value. About Hedy Tan Hedy Tan is passionate about helping people break free from painful cycles and create the relationships they truly want. Her expertise brings both compassion and structure to the healing process.
Hedy offers sessions in two welcoming office settings:
Who Can Benefit from RLT?
If you’re ready to stop repeating the same patterns and start building a healthier, more connected relationship, Relational Life Therapy may be right for you. Contact Hedy Tan today to schedule a consultation and begin your journey toward lasting change.About Hedy Tan: With over 35 years of experience, Hedy Tan has dedicated her career to helping individuals and couples heal from trauma, addictions, and relational challenges. She combines compassion with evidence-based methods to guide clients toward lasting change. Credentials & Expertise
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If you're looking for someone else to fix your life, you're in trouble. Instead of looking to others to "complete you", give meaning to you or give you a sense of worth, look to yourself to own your worth (you have it--it's a given). Only when you're comfortable in your own skin, like who you are and don't "need" anyone to make you feel okay, will you be in a great place to find someone good for you. The healthier you are, the healthier the people will be who you attract.
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Hedy Tan has over 35 years of experience in private practice, specializing in relational healing through Relational Life Therapy (RLT) for individuals and couples. She has completed all levels of Pia Mellody’s training, including Post-Induction Therapy (PIT). Hedy is certified by the International Institute for Trauma & Addictions Professionals (IITAP) in Partner Betrayed Trauma, as well as in Sex and Love Addiction and Money and Work Disorders.
Additionally, she holds a CADC certification in Illinois and is a Certified Life Coach through the International Coach Federation (ICF). Hedy has also trained with Ken Adams via IITAP and is a Preferred Provider .Hedy is PIT trained. Her extensive training and experience equip her to provide comprehensive support for a wide range of relational and personal challenges
Additionally, she holds a CADC certification in Illinois and is a Certified Life Coach through the International Coach Federation (ICF). Hedy has also trained with Ken Adams via IITAP and is a Preferred Provider .Hedy is PIT trained. Her extensive training and experience equip her to provide comprehensive support for a wide range of relational and personal challenges
