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​Hedy Tan is the only
  • RLI Facilitator; RLI Bootcamp Leader -  (Relational Life Institute - Terry Real), Post Induction Therapist · Survivor 1 - (Pia Mellody, The Meadows). Certified in Sex and Love Addiction /Partner Betrayal Trauma / Money and Work Adaptation (International Institute for Trauma and Addictions Professionals (Patrick Carnes), Drugs and Alcohol (Illinois), Certified Life Coach (ICF), IMAGO practitioner · Harville Hendrix- trained professional ​in the Chicagoland area.

Individual work focuses on helping clients see how their choices impacts them as well as those around them. It may mean understanding how to best manage controlling / codependent / avoidant behaviors, compulsion / addiction; over dependence on substances or processes, depression, professional life, resentment, anxiety, career direction,  retirement, anger management issues, and much more.

This may mean developing compassion and understanding for parts of one's personality and beliefs, that have been extreme or problematic for oneself as well as others.

​ENMESHMENT

What is Enmeshment and Are You Enmeshed? When is Being Close to a Parent Too Much?
  • When the relationship primarily serves the emotional needs of the parent not the child
  • When the child’s closeness to one parent is used in a tug‐of‐war with the other parent
  • When the implicit and explicit demands for obligatory loyalty to the parent interfere with the child’s identity unfolding and adult emancipation
  • When the parent’s needs and demands interfere with the romantic relationship of the adult child leaving the partner essentially “second fiddle”​
  • If you think you or your partner may be too close to a parent, email me now to schedule an appointment.
5 Core Self Skills: Self-esteem, Owning your reality, Boundaries, Interdependency, & Moderation
​Whether this is something you have tried before or something you have been thinking about trying for the first time, you know you want to improve certain parts of yourself and your life.

You have been successful in certain aspects of your life, but just feel like you want to feel better or more satisfied with other parts. It might be stress at work, your relationships, or feeling unmotivated and unsatisfied, but you know you could be more fulfilled and happy.

You might be searching for support through something that is going on now or something that happened in the past. I can help you explore how your emotions affect you in ways that have been difficult for you to identify.
I want to help you live a more engaged life. A life you feel excited about.
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Individual recovery is an investment in yourself. You have the potential to make a lot of progress.

The Way In

If you are interested in making the investment in yourself to begin, you might be wondering what kind of commitment this would be for you. Once we decide to set up the first individual appointment, I will send you some paperwork to fill out and bring to the first session.
The first intake appointment will be 50 minutes and we can begin to make a plan going forward from there.
It is usually the most helpful to plan to meet every week or even two times per week starting off. Once we have had 6-8 sessions we can reevaluate where you're at and what you feel is helpful based on the progress that you've made.
When you first begin, you have the opportunity to openly talk about your thoughts. concerns and feelings while being guided by a caring life /relationship / addictions professional / coach.

​Clients often seek outside, professional help when their internal struggles begin to affect their daily lives. It may be some recent stress, an ongoing conflict, a sense of hopelessness or feeling overwhelmed, or other life struggle they have been unable to resolve alone. You might worry initially that talking about yourself might be awkward or uncomfortable, but most clients find individual work an enjoyable release of their pent up / confused / anxious feelings and a path to personal growth.

I will assist you in defining your goals and develop a plan to help attain them. So, while you gain greater focus and peace within your thoughts and feelings, the life and relationship coach acts as a non-judgmental guide, helping you recognize patterns in your behavior and choices, identifying alternatives and finding ways to avoid repeating past problems.

I use a dynamic approach based on the integration of Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy Model, THE MEADOWS' - Pia Mellody’s Post Induction Model's Five Core Issues around Development Immaturity, and IITAP's Patrick Carnes' Addiction Model.
          
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