JUNE 9-12 ZOOM SESSIONS ONLY - THANK YOU!
River North, Chicago and Valparaiso, Indiana
IN PERSON or VIRTUAL
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Hedy Tan is a highly qualified mental health professional and the only RLI Facilitator in the Chicagoland area.
She serves as an RLI Bootcamp Leader and is a certified Couples Therapist through the Relational Life Institute under Terry Real. Hedy specializes in post-induction therapy for childhood trauma, trained by Pia Mellody at The Meadows. In addition to her expertise in trauma, she is certified in treating sex and love addiction, partner betrayal trauma, and multiple addictions through the International Institute for Trauma and Addictions Professionals, founded by Patrick Carnes. She also holds certification in drugs and alcohol counseling in Illinois and is an ICF-Certified Life Coach. Hedy is an IMAGO practitioner, trained by Harville Hendrix, and works throughout the Chicagoland area. Her diverse skill set allows her to support individuals and couples in various aspects of relational health and personal growth. Hedy Tan, CADC, CLC, PIT, ASAT, AMAT, APTT, CCRBT in training Location: Chicago, Illinois, and Valparaiso, Indiana |
What is ENMESHMENT / INTRUSION?
Enmeshment refers to a relational dynamic where boundaries between parents and children become blurred, leading to an unhealthy level of emotional involvement. This often results in the child’s emotional needs taking a backseat to those of the parent. Signs of Enmeshment:
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2 DAY FOO TRAUMA WORKSHOP FOR INDIVIDUALS
based on the treatmemt model developed by Pia Mellody "Survivors"
With over 35 years of experience, Hedy Tan is a dedicated mental health professional specializing in individual and couples therapy.
As a certified RLT (Relational Life Therapy) Facilitator, Bootcamp Leader, and Couples Therapist, she has a profound understanding of the complexities that can hinder personal and relational growth.
Hedy’s individual work focuses on helping clients recognize how their choices affect themselves and those around them. She addresses a wide range of challenges, including: Controlling, codependent, and avoidant behaviors
Compulsions and addictions, including substance dependence
Depression and anxiety
Career direction and professional life
Retirement planning and anger management
Hedy emphasizes developing compassion and understanding for the parts of one’s personality and beliefs that may be problematic. By guiding clients through these issues, she helps them create healthier patterns and achieve the life they aspire to live. Additionally, she is an Enmeshment Preferred Provider with Ken Adams and a CCBRT Candidate with IITAP, further enhancing her ability to support clients on their journey to healing and growth.
Whether this is something you have tried before or something you have been thinking about trying for the first time, you know you want to improve certain parts of yourself and your life.
You have been successful in certain aspects of your life, but just feel like you want to feel better or more satisfied with other parts. It might be stress at work, your relationships, or feeling unmotivated and unsatisfied, but you know you could be more fulfilled and happy. You might be searching for support through something that is going on now or something that happened in the past. I can help you explore how your emotions affect you in ways that have been difficult for you to identify. I want to help you live a more engaged life. A life you feel excited about. Individual recovery is an investment in yourself. You have the potential to make a lot of progress. |
The Way In:
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Starting Your Journey:
What to expect when you begin - you'll have the chance to openly discuss your thoughts, concerns, and feelings with a caring professional. Many clients seek help when their internal struggles start impacting their daily lives—whether due to recent stress, ongoing conflicts, feelings of hopelessness, or other unresolved issues. It's natural to feel apprehensive about sharing your experiences, but most clients find individual sessions to be a valuable release, allowing them to navigate their emotions and foster personal growth. Your Path Forward - I will work with you to:
Approach - My approach integrates several proven models:
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Love AddictionEmpowering Women: Confidence and ClarityI help women build confidence, set effective limits, and cultivate clarity.
My goal is to guide you out of extremes and empower you to stop settling for less. Too often, fear, doubt, or exhaustion can hold you back from asking for what you truly deserve. Partner Betrayal Trauma Support: As a certified professional in Partner Betrayal Trauma through the International Institute for Trauma & Addictions, I offer compassionate support and healing. Together, we will work on setting healthy boundaries and navigating the complexities of betrayal. Dating Help: Finding the Right ReasonsMany people enter the dating world for unhealthy reasons, which can lead to prolonged unhappiness. Common motivations include:
Focus on strengthening your inner core and recognizing your inherent worth. By doing so, you’ll elevate the quality of relationships you attract. If you're ready to embark on this transformative journey, I’m here to support you every step of the way! I help women to gain confidence, set effective limits, gain clarity and to have their own back. I teach women to get out of the extremes and to stop settling for less simply because they’re too afraid to ask for more, don’t think they’ll get more, or are too tired to try for more. CERTIFIED in PARTNER BETRAYAL TRAUMA International Institute for Trauma & Addictions: I offer you support, healing from your betrayal trauma, as well as learn to set healthy boundaries for yourself. Challenge: Be certain you're going into the dating world with nothing to prove and no desperation to find someone. Strengthen your inner core first (Inherent Worth) and you will raise the bar on the quality of dates you attract later. |
If you're looking for someone else to fix your life, you're in trouble. Instead of looking to others to "complete you", give meaning to you or give you a sense of worth, look to yourself to own your worth (you have it--it's a given). Only when you're comfortable in your own skin, like who you are and don't "need" anyone to make you feel okay, will you be in a great place to find someone good for you. The healthier you are, the healthier the people will be who you attract.
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Hedy Tan has over 35 years of experience in private practice, specializing in relational healing through Relational Life Therapy (RLT) for individuals and couples. She has completed all levels of Pia Mellody’s training, including Post-Induction Therapy (PIT). Hedy is certified by the International Institute for Trauma & Addictions Professionals (IITAP) in Partner Betrayed Trauma, as well as in Sex and Love Addiction and Money and Work Disorders.
Additionally, she holds a CADC certification in Illinois and is a Certified Life Coach through the International Coach Federation (ICF). Hedy has also trained with Ken Adams via IITAP and is a Preferred Provider . Her extensive training and experience equip her to provide comprehensive support for a wide range of relational and personal challenges
Additionally, she holds a CADC certification in Illinois and is a Certified Life Coach through the International Coach Federation (ICF). Hedy has also trained with Ken Adams via IITAP and is a Preferred Provider . Her extensive training and experience equip her to provide comprehensive support for a wide range of relational and personal challenges