River North, Chicago · Valparaiso, Indiana
NO CONTACT - IN-PERSON MEETINGS AVAILABLE · COUPLES INTENSIVES OFFERED
PRIVATE COUPLES ESSENTIAL SKILLS BOOTCAMP AVAILABLE UPON REQUEST
Thank you for respecting my 48-hour Cancellation Policy.
RELATIONSHIP INTERVENTION
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Questions to Consider:
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Are you doing everything and your partner is doing nothing? Have you lost yourself, your voice, and/or your confidence?
Are you tired of trying to get through to your partner? Do you feel like nothing works, no matter what you try?
Do you feel stuck and unclear about what to do?
5 Core Relationship Skills
Relational Esteem
Telling the truth with skill and love
Responding constructively
Negotiating with wisdom
Relational Integrity
Are you tired of trying to get through to your partner? Do you feel like nothing works, no matter what you try?
Do you feel stuck and unclear about what to do?
5 Core Relationship Skills
Relational Esteem
Telling the truth with skill and love
Responding constructively
Negotiating with wisdom
Relational Integrity
90% of couples prefer to begin with a Half Day or Full Day INTENSIVE to launch your relational path towards repair.
To schedule an Intensive:
1. Email relationallifesolutions@gmail.com
Many Wednesdays, Thursdays & Fridays are available @ 10 am - 2 pm as long as scheduled ahead of time...
2. Book through Calendly. Find 2 back to back 100 min sessions, add a note: "we're scheduling an Intensive"
***50% deposit due upon booking your intensive***
Full payment 14 days prior to your intensive date.
Relational Life Solutions has found that the traditional 50-minute hour session is ineffective and makes progress slow going. Most popular with couples is a four or seven hour intensive OR 100 minute session, followed by 100 minute sessions every 10 - 14 days, for 8 sessions. Longer sessions are vital in allowing the work to go deeper and progress to move faster. Couples love the depth of the work inherent in the longer sessions. After eight sessions, we re-evaluate where you are and move forward every two to three weeks for a total six month commitment.
COUPLES
You deserve to feel accepted, understood, and cherished in your relationship. Whether you are on the brink of divorce, dealing with an affair situation, or just overwhelmed in your life, there is hope. There is a clear path for you to vastly improve your situation.
Note: I am not someone who will just sit back and listen to you. I am very interactive, directive and involved in the sessions. I will work with you to evaluate exactly what is keeping you stuck and outline steps for each of you to take in order to change. What I tell you might be difficult to hear at times, but it is necessary for you to make lasting change in your life if you wish to make your relationship more cohesive, joyful, connective. The results you experience are totally dependent on your commitment to yourself and your relationship, to do whatever it takes to make it better... Some people have been through 3, 4 or even 5 other therapists before they come to me.
If, however, you prefer a a 100 minute session, please schedule that yourself online for a date convenient for you. Thank you for respecting my 48-hour Cancellation Policy.
*****Time STARTS at appointment time, NOT at arrival time*****
THE COUPLE'S EXPERIENCE
After your Intensive, it's much easier to make progress and still be able to space out the appointments every 2 weeks when we are meeting for 100 minutes or more.
There is certainly no guarantee as every situation is different, but I can usually help couples make a lot of progress in 8 longer sessions. Once couples are on the right track, they often choose to continue meeting, but can space out the sessions even more.
Working with couples for longer sessions has been incredibly helpful. Most professionals try to work with couples in the usual 50-minute sessions every week. I have had extensive training and experience in RLT couples' relational skills and know that working with couples is very different than working with individuals. For that reason, I work in 100-minute sessions at a minimum.
Hedy Tan is a RLI Certified Coach, Relational Skill Building Facilitator, Master RLI Therapist in private practice. has been in private practice for 30+ years. Hedy uses RLT with her individuals and couples for relational healing. She has completed all levels of Pia Mellody’s training, including PIT. Hedy is certified with IITAP in Partner Betrayed Trauma; Sex and Love Addiction as well as Money and Work Adaptation; CADC (Illinois), Certified Life Coach (ICF) and completed training with Ken Adams via IITAP in Adult Enmeshed with Parent.
I respond to requests to schedule/reschedule an appointment as soon as possible. PLEASE save your questions for our next session - I may not respond to all messages of a therapeutic nature. I do read each message and keep track of questions and themes to explore in our next session. I do not provide 24 hour support and emergency crisis services. In case of emergency, please call 911.
You deserve to feel accepted, understood, and cherished in your relationship. Whether you are on the brink of divorce, dealing with an affair situation, or just overwhelmed in your life, there is hope. There is a clear path for you to vastly improve your situation.
Note: I am not someone who will just sit back and listen to you. I am very interactive, directive and involved in the sessions. I will work with you to evaluate exactly what is keeping you stuck and outline steps for each of you to take in order to change. What I tell you might be difficult to hear at times, but it is necessary for you to make lasting change in your life if you wish to make your relationship more cohesive, joyful, connective. The results you experience are totally dependent on your commitment to yourself and your relationship, to do whatever it takes to make it better... Some people have been through 3, 4 or even 5 other therapists before they come to me.
If, however, you prefer a a 100 minute session, please schedule that yourself online for a date convenient for you. Thank you for respecting my 48-hour Cancellation Policy.
*****Time STARTS at appointment time, NOT at arrival time*****
THE COUPLE'S EXPERIENCE
After your Intensive, it's much easier to make progress and still be able to space out the appointments every 2 weeks when we are meeting for 100 minutes or more.
There is certainly no guarantee as every situation is different, but I can usually help couples make a lot of progress in 8 longer sessions. Once couples are on the right track, they often choose to continue meeting, but can space out the sessions even more.
Working with couples for longer sessions has been incredibly helpful. Most professionals try to work with couples in the usual 50-minute sessions every week. I have had extensive training and experience in RLT couples' relational skills and know that working with couples is very different than working with individuals. For that reason, I work in 100-minute sessions at a minimum.
Hedy Tan is a RLI Certified Coach, Relational Skill Building Facilitator, Master RLI Therapist in private practice. has been in private practice for 30+ years. Hedy uses RLT with her individuals and couples for relational healing. She has completed all levels of Pia Mellody’s training, including PIT. Hedy is certified with IITAP in Partner Betrayed Trauma; Sex and Love Addiction as well as Money and Work Adaptation; CADC (Illinois), Certified Life Coach (ICF) and completed training with Ken Adams via IITAP in Adult Enmeshed with Parent.
I respond to requests to schedule/reschedule an appointment as soon as possible. PLEASE save your questions for our next session - I may not respond to all messages of a therapeutic nature. I do read each message and keep track of questions and themes to explore in our next session. I do not provide 24 hour support and emergency crisis services. In case of emergency, please call 911.
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ZOOM GUIDELINES:
PLEASE DO NOT USE AirPods/Headphones DURING OUR ZOOM SESSIONS - it muffles the sound clarity. PLEASE HAVE A NOTEPAD & YOUR FOLDER CONTAINING YOUR HANDOUTS AVAILABLE FOR OUR SESSION. YOUR TIME HAS BEEN RESERVED FOR YOU. PLEASE SETTLE YOUR ACCOUNT 48 HOURS PRIOR TO YOUR APPOINTMENT. 1 session = 100 minutes PAYMENT OPTIONS: ZELLE: hedytan@aol.com · 312-296-6300 VENMO: @Hedy-Tan · 312 296 6300 (add friend) RLT TOOL PACKET = $95 + Ship INFORMED CONSENT GUIDELINES / CHECKLIST FOR VIRTUAL SERVICES AGREEMENT ·There are potential benefits and risks of video-conferencing (e.g. technology can’t guarantee patient confidentiality) that differ from in-person sessions. Confidentiality still applies for virtual services, and nobody will record the session without the permission from the others person(s). ·We agree to use the video platform selected for our virtual sessions. |
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·You need to use a webcam or smartphone during the session.
·It is important to be in a quiet, private space that is free of distractions (including cell phone or other devices) during the session.
·It is important to use a secure internet connection rather than public/free Wi-Fi.
·It is important to be on time. If you need to cancel or change your tele-appointment, you must notify in advance with 48 hour notice by phone or email.
·We need a back-up plan (e.g., phone number where you can be reached) to restart the session or use Face Time, in the event of technical problems.
·We need a safety plan that includes you have at least one emergency contact and the closest ER to your location, in the event of a crisis situation.
I may determine that due to certain circumstances, the virtual platform is no longer appropriate and that we should resume our sessions in-person.
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Please submit your payment 48 hours ahead of your appointment.
50% deposit due upon booking your intensive. Full payment 14 days prior to your intensive date.
CANCELLATION POLICY: 50% is non-refundable 7 days or less Prior to your intensive date.
CANCELLATION POLICY: 50% is non-refundable 7 days or less Prior to your intensive date.
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ENMESHMENT
What is Enmeshment and Are You Enmeshed? When is Being Close to a Parent Too Much?
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RLT Essential Skills
Bootcamp designed by Terry Real Saturday, September 30 & Sunday, October 1 9 AM - 4 PM CST - VIRTUAL Available to couples & individuals 
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